Parental Issues

So, my father and I had another confrontation today, on September 23, 2025. After he brought me home from the MRI or X-rays that I had to do for my neck and back, he saw a letter from one of my plans addressed to me for Haitian American Restaurant Plus LLC.

He asked questions, and I answered. He raised his voice and I raised mine. My mother kept telling him to calm down. I told him that this is just a plan. The part that kept us going back and forth was that he said that I didn't have to send my plans to the State. "I kept repeating it's just a plan. I don't have to pay anything yet, because my accountant advised me on that."

He kept this thing going after he went his separate ways to the Dining Room, and I stayed in the living room.

So, I fired back by saying, "If I had come to you for advice, you would have crushed my dreams again. Remember all my other dreams that you crushed. You were supposed to help and guide me. Let me find out!"

My father said, "Get out of here! I see horrible things to happen to you in your future. You are wrong. You think you know things, you don't know nothing!"

I replied in a voice of authority: "Please, father, DO NOT PROPHESY on me or my life."

My mother took my father's side as usual by saying: "Calm down! You are wrong!" She also says to my father: "You calm down also!"

Then he came close to me at the pathway between the Dinner Room, the Kitchen, and the Living Room. "I SWEAR in front of your mother, next time, you have a problem, I am not helping you! I'm only helping you because of you're mother. It's because I know that she won't be able to handle all the stress."

LAST MONTH, my so-called father made a shocking comment when a few church friends came to visit me at my current address: "I didn't even want to come see you at the hospital. I ONLY WENT TO VISIT YOU AT THE HOSPITAL, BECAUSE MY PASTOR CONVINCED ME."

MY TAKE ON ALL THIS between my so-called biological father and I: I have been trying the road of reconciliation with this guy who is supposedly my earthly father. I have been nice to him. I be saying things like: "Have a good day at work, papi." He responds back with such an unpleasant reception everytime, that sometimes I feel like keeping my mouth shut. I keep giving him compliments without insulting him. Trying not to follow his footsteps, because that's what he does. He will give you a compliment and then bring something negative that happened or that you did in the past. I gave him a compliment last week, and I told him to just accept it and that's it: "I see that you are a man that knows how to fight with life."

There were more things that happened in the past between him and I... NOW, I have been trying to keep this inside: "Do you all see why I love my mother more than my father?"

It's like my mother loves starting arguments with me. She may see me doing something. Doesn't even know what I am doing, but jumps to conclusions. I have to carefully give her details of my plans. I complimented her last week and I told her to just accept the compliment, don't start no beef: "I see that you're a strong woman". I even try to joke with her all the time. She turns the joke into something serious. She doesn't even want me to go out to explore the world and enjoy life. There's always a dream or an excuse to keep me inside the house.


MY TAKE ON ALL THIS between my mother and I: "Why do you all see bad things to happen only when it is time to go out (even church related matters)?"

It does seem like he hates me. But when he got stopped by that cop, he was not ashamed to say, "I just came from the hospital with my son." My mother almost never takes my side. My mom business was in Haiti and my so-called father business was in the United States. My sister was not there at the time. I informed her and my business partner on what happened.

I would rather talk to my sister about anything than my so-called father.

My business partner advised me that I need to set up a meeting with him and I. And I said that I would try, but I want my sister to be present as the mediator. She said that would be fine, just like a referee. Thank Heaven that GOD is my true father.

Yes, my business partner is a woman with restaurant experience.

I don't even know what I will say at his funeral. This is going to be a short eulogy.

I said at his funeral. That's when the time comes.

Wow! Where did these parents learn how to raise a child?

I have told him a couple of times in the past, and he responded: "I love you too."
Many times when my mom and father are giving me a long freaking lecture or speech, they both express that: "No parents ever hate their child. It's not that we hate you. We're preparing you for life in the future." Although, that was many months ago.

MY CONCLUSION: Both of you only look at negative news to share with the family. Too negative-minded. You two are meant for each other. This is crap like this that leads people to commit suicide. Not me, because my mental health has a grade of (8/10)!! Thank God that I have an adoptive family in the family of CHRIST. THANK YOU, JESUS, for adopting me into your new family. Despite of all these different battles I'm dealing with from different sides, my sense of humor has a grade of (10/10). It's like neither of them wants me to be successful without taking any risks. Just because both of you don't currently have you're own businesses, doesn't mean that I can't. It's not my fault that both of you failed in your plans when each of you had your own business! Why can't I break the family curse? Why won't either of you believe in my dreams and back me up?